In order for your San Diego family law attorney to gain control over settlement negotiations, your soon-to-be-ex-spouse may need to be given a chance to vent his or her feelings of anger, aggravation, and hurt. Undoubtedly, human emotions play a large part in divorce litigation, and different people adapt and respond to the emotional trauma of divorce in various ways. If your spouse is feeling particularly hurt, letting him or her clear the air might prove to be beneficial in order for productive negotiations to begin.

In order for your San Diego family law attorney to gain control over settlement negotiations, your soon-to-be-ex-spouse may need to be given a chance to vent his or her feelings of anger, aggravation, and hurt. Undoubtedly, human emotions play a large part in divorce litigation, and different people adapt and respond to the emotional trauma of divorce in various ways. If your spouse is feeling particularly hurt, letting him or her clear the air might prove to be beneficial in order for productive negotiations to begin.

Quite often, a person can take control of a situation by simply saying nothing and allowing others to have a chance to speak their minds. Likewise, if opposing counsel is resolute on maintaining the tough lawyer role, it may be necessary to sit through some initial protests before true negotiations can start. Keep in mind, though, that it is highly unlikely that opposing counsel (or your spouse) would have accepted the invitation to a settlement conference simply to shell out verbal bombs, because that could have been done via email for far less money.

So, once the preliminaries are done, you and your lawyer can start negotiations. Your attorney may want to consider gaining and keeping control of the situation by starting out the talks and first asking what it is that you both can agree on. The discussion can then progress by detailing what your position is on certain issues (in a calm manner of course). Then, your attorney may suggest that you further discuss any contested issues and allow time for each party to express his or her position. Once that is done, the attorney can try to reach a point of compromise or, if not possible, offer to concede in exchange for certain concessions. In the end, the attorney should have a list of everything that was agreed to, point by point, and each party should confirm the agreement.

If you need a qualified San Diego family law attorney, please call Lisa Zonder at (866) 632-6459 for a free consultation.